so guess what
Posted: March 8, 2007 Filed under: Uncategorized 34 Comments »I am home. I am fine. I am crampy but it was very, very quick and not a very big deal. Genetic counseler, contrary to what my OB said would happen, used absolutely no scare tactics, did not even mention the risk of miscarriage (!) and did not question our decision to have amnio at all.
So some interesting things:
- I am sorry to announce that Attila, the evil ultrasound tech who has haunted/ruined so many of Jennifer’s scans at this hospital, is apparently homophobic. When she called our name I grabbed Wes’ hand and said, "Uh-oh. You’re not finding out the sex or anything else today." (the genetic counseler had said that we might be able to tell today). But she was actually fairly pleasant and answered Wes’ questions (I kept hissing, "Don’t even bother" but Wes was right to try, turned out). After the big needle stick (yes, it hurts and it is crampy but it is not as bad as an HSG and about a gazillion times easier than having a dead baby sucked out of you), she put the ultrasound thing back on to show us that the heart was still beating and Wes ventured to ask, "Can you tell the sex?" And she obligingly, politely looked.
- It is a boy.
- Whoa.
- We will naturally find out for sure on Monday when we get the results, but I think she’s probably right. She zipped over to whatever it was she was looking for (we could not tell what ANYTHING was, except the spine – it was one big blur of my giant bladder in the way, but she could see everything clearly, apparently) and quickly and easily announced, "It’s a boy." Pause as she looked some more. "Yes, definitely a boy." More pausing. "Yes, a boy."
- We realized we would have been shocked either way. The cab ride home was full of, "We won’t ever get to _______" and "But we won’t ever have to __________". Of course, for every thing we said, we corrected ourselves, realizing that our boy might want to go to the Americ*n Girl doll store (this was on Wes’ "pros of a boy" list, as he would prefer never to step foot in that store) or might be a klutzy bookworm who won’t go near a ball (my fear of a boy being all things sports-related, which could obviously have occurred with a girl, too). The only true loss is the stash of a few dresses that we had going, saved starting in 1998 or so. Our friends, especially the 7 out of 10 girls born before ours (we found out that the 2 we hadn’t known about are boys), will be benefitting from this news. And we have that many fewer shower gifts to buy.
- A boy.
- Whoa.
Congrats on the boy bits! I was totally freaked out when I thought I might be having a boy. (we technically didn’t find out, but my RE told me Boy in not so many words at my 10 wk appt. I thought there was NO WAY she could make that determination, but the woman does sit in front of an u/s machine for her living, so I was a fool to doubt it. Also at our level 2 u/s the tech kept refering to it as him until she asked us if we wanted to know. It was less obvious than it sounds, but we pretty much knew before he was born) I imagined myself (being a girl and all) having a girl. Now that we live with a boy, I can say it is 10000% great. Of course you know this through GMB, but it bears repeating.
Congrats again! Glad the amnio went “well” and can’t wait to hear results…
I am really glad that the procedure went smoothly. Really, really glad.
Holy f-ing shit! A boy! Oh, I’m so happy for you both. I know you had wanted a girl for a long time, but it sounds like you’re in a good place. It’s natural to think those, “I’ll never have a daughter to (whatever) with…” But as you know, boys are awesome too. …I’m a little biased. Anyway, you should have known it was a boy as soon as I guessed girl, since I have the world’s worst intuition about these things.
I agree with Wes about never wanting to go to an Americ3n Girl Store. Ick. Even if one of my boys wanted a doll, I would steer him to another place just to save myself.
I’m all nerves… off to get my stupid node checked. Will let you know what happens.
Again, yay!!!!!!!! Now just sit tight and rest. Hope the time between now and the results flies by.
Wow! Congratulations!
Wow, a boy. Everyone is having boys (well, you and lissa). I never thought *any* of us would have boys, truly. Do you think this will in some cosmic way elevate my chance of a girl? Seriously, though, so happy to hear it was an okay experience. Keeping my fingers crossed for equally easy results. Love you. See you soon!
Oh my! A boy!!!!!! I agree with the sentiment of no Amer. Girl. Lucky you. SO SORRY you had atilla. Wasn’t she dry and abrasive? I’m sure your “it’s a boy” was delivered with as much emotional as our “two girls.” Next time, make a wednesday appointment. I think she is off that day.
I’m glad the amnio went well. Who was the doctor? A red-headed European or a gray-haired russian? (i don’t remember their names, as you can tell). Or did your doctor do it?
I had very little cramping. Hopefully you will too. I did have some watery like discharge that scared me (and sent me to labor and elivery) but t was all fine. he little hole poked has already started to seal.
Keep us posted on everything!!
A boy!!!
congrats to you and Wes! what a relief to hear that the big needle thing went well. a boy!!
Wowee! So glad everything went well and very excited about the news–Nat and I look forward to helping keep you distracted this weekend! Olive, of course, is also up to the task.
Yay!! Glad to hear that everything went well, and about the BOY! Congrats!
oh my! glad to hear that things went well & that you got the answer to your question. a son! how exciting! many, many congrats to you & wes!
Welcome to the world of having a son, even if he isn’t here yet.
You’ll love it. Boys are wonderful. I wanted a girl, but I am so glad that I didn’t get my way this time. There is nothing better. Boys are the best. I really hope we don’t get stuck with a girl next time!
Congrats!
a boy – what fun!
i can’t wait to play ball with him.
incidently, my mom apparently dressed me in a dress when i was one, and i tripped on it because it was too long, and then i fell down three flights of stairs (both of which experiences probably explain a lot about me); you might want to save your most mannish dress for your son – you never know. just keep him away from stairs.
have a mellow weekend
z
a boy. wow. i grieved the dress thing, but now i like the boys clothes better. also, LM likes to wear a dress or skirt on occasion. you never know. i am sad for you that you did not get your secret hope, but i think you will get a great little boy, and i know you will completely love him.
HOORAY! I am so glad it went smoothly. A baby NEPHEW! You can just put Gertie in any dresses. I’m sure she’d like them, especially the frilly, itchy ones. Congrats on getting through this big scary milestone. Hope to see you soon this weekend. Food and puppies would be provided.
Hooray for it going smoothly.
And a boy is good–my mom maintains that boys are easier anyway.
I hope the wait and the bedrest are equally smooth.
yayayay for easy amnios and little boy bits. When Manly Nephew came around my female dominated family were a little perplexed…we would look at him and be like “Now what?”. two years later he is our Lord and Master and his little brother is coming right up to share the power.
Just wanted to add a THANK YOU for confirming the homophobia thing! While I am sure that she was still dry in her delivery, but she wasn’t mean to you.
And yet two women walk in…girlfrined and girfriend….obviously a couple…and darkness falls. Husband and wife, no problem.
Maybe I’m not so crazy after all!
I always wanted boys (and only boys), but I thought I was having a girl, so when the u/s tech said we were having a boy I was shocked. The whole drive home I kept turning to husband and asking “did she say a boy?”. My only concern was that we had no boy names and we hadn’t decided what we would do in regards to circumcision (we eventually decided to leave him intact and let him decide what he wants to do with it).
I was CONVINCED I was having a girl. WE didn’t find out. I got a boy. He’s SO MUCH FUN. omg, so much fun.
Make sure you decide about circumcision before you have him and if you’re not doing to do it, be darned ready to never leave his side, or the hospital may ramrod you into doing it
Boy clothes, while not frilly and foofy, are awfully cute.
To quote my daughter: WOWEEEEEEEEE!
soooooooooo glad it went smoothly. phew!!
A son!!! hot damn!
yay! A boy. Gee I supose now naming him Debbie is out of the question. Maybe?
Huge HUGE love and congrats sweetheart! I’m so excited for you…is okay for me to be really excited for you? We still have to celebrate when you’re up for it…Or I can just bake/cook something and bring it to you if you’d rather.
YAY! How exciting and I’m so glad the amnio went smoothly and that you’re having a boy. This is going to support a secret theory I have (not a theory regarding you and your pregnancy exactly, something more general) so that makes me happy too (it’s all about me, you know).
Now I’m just going to keep sending you white light during your bedrest…
Hi, Quaker friend and Wes. Sorry about the homophobia. What a drag. Hope you are feeling OK. So, your FIRST child is a boy. The next wil be —the next. All of my love to you both. Thank you for your support. Missed you today, and will miss you tomorrow. My love and prayers–VPS
Also, thanks to you, I am addicted to my blog. It is like heroin.
woo hoo! Mazal Tov! A Healthy boy!
Hooray! I am so glad for you all, though the House of Doppel admits to being surprised at the boy bits. Enjoy your resting and congratulations again on the news!
I’m glad the amnio went off without a hitch. And a little boy!
Hey congratulations! A boy! We had hints that Ender would be a boy too, but I ignored them since they were in Turkish and I thought the doctor was messing with Engin. But in all my dreams the baby was a girl too.
When he was born, I first noticed that he looked exactly like Ben, and I didn’t even look for any male or female bits. Also I didn’t have my glasses and the cord was between his legs anyway. The doctor said ‘You have a baby!’ They put him on my chest with a towel around him and I’d been talking to him for about 5 minutes half assuming he was a girl (he was so pretty!)before it occured to me to peek under the towel and see what he was.
I was pretty surprised!
One advantage to having a boy is that you can dress him in a sailor suit and have his picture taken at Sears or whatever, then keep the picture for future leverage, just in case… hehe.
that is some shit. when charlotte gave me the news, I thought, “why the fuck can’t we just get what we want?” why couldnt you get the girl you’ve longed for? are the rolling stones right when they say, we cant always get what we want but if we try sometimes we just might find we get what we need.” do i NEED two daughters? do you need two sons? or is that some bullshit that we impose on an arbitrary outcome in a futile effort to make some fucking sense of the world? who fucking knows?
i know it’s disappointing and hopes and dreams that wont come true need to be grieved. does it make your mom seem extra gone that you wont have a daughter? it’s nice that you found out early so you get lots of time to get used to the idea and become fond of the little fellow living in your belly.
i personally love little boys but i dont expect that to make any difference to you. you do what you need to do girl. its your baby and you can cry if you want to.
i hope your recovery goes well and that your good news come when it ought to.
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Congrats! Glad the amnio wasn’t traumatic.
oh, c’mon…you don’t know for sure that your boy won’t want to wear a dress. Although i suppose you’re maybe not going to dress him in one as a BABY…yeah, i can see your point there…
Congrats on getting through the amnio and on your little boy (probably)
Fabulous! Great! Sweet!
Wow, congrats on your sweet baby boy!
Congratulations on your boy! I was so worried when I found out I was having a boy but now I wouldn’t change a thing. Glad the amnio wasn’t too bad (I had one for each pregnancy) and that you’re going to take it easy for a couple of days.